Jordan Peterson and Patrick Bet-David Discuss the Consequences of Over Protected Children

In the discussion below, Jordan Peterson discusses differences in attitudes towards parenting by those in their twenties verse those in their thirties.

Parents in their twenties are going to be “more usefully neglectful” as opposed to older parents. Younger parents may be more inclined to let their children entertain themselves and subtlety develop the habit of self-reliance. Jordan Peterson uses his daughter as an example where he and his wife would be alone in a room with their daughter when she was about one and half and would leave her to entertain herself.

He acknowledges that she would initially complain about this, but would then find ways to amuse herself. They would allow her to, on her own, get through that “initial bit of misery”, find an activity to keep herself entertained and then “she would learn how to regulate herself.”

He goes on to speak about how children used to have multiple siblings, and that was one way in which children would be forced to ‘toughen up’. Anyone with siblings can attest to this.

Parents with one child are able to devote all their time and resources available, to one individual as opposed to having to divide time and resources among multiple children. This can lead to the unintentional negative consequence of over protection, where the child’s life is made as easy as possible and may be sheltered from making mistakes that result from a more ‘hands-off’ approach.

Parents in their thirties are more resource rich than when they were in their twenties and this can create a situation where their children are afforded with more opportunities that are constantly scheduled by their parents. This idea of scheduling children ad nauseam can create less resilient adults that are less capable of handling the difficulties and pressures of life outside of the home.

It is unclear how impactful this is on the development of children, but it is true that one way to learn, is learn from mistakes made.

Watch the video here:

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *